Making Our Dreams Come True: How Dreaming Together Strengthens Your Relationship
When’s the last time you got excited about your future?
When we were kids, dreaming came naturally. We’d imagine careers, adventures, soulmates, dream houses—even our pet's names. But somewhere along the way, adulting took over. Now it might feel like you’re just surviving the daily grind, counting down to the weekend and wondering where the joy went.
Here’s the good news: You can bring it back.
How? By dreaming again—and doing it together.
Dreaming (yes, while you're awake)—setting goals, making bucket lists, imagining the life you want—is a powerful way to breathe life and excitement back into your relationship.
Why Dreaming Together Matters
My partner and I recently sat down and wrote out our bucket list: what we want to do in 2, 5, and 10 years. It was fun, eye-opening, and surprisingly romantic. He’s always been a dreamer, and honestly, I had to relearn how to dream again. But now? We're more connected than ever.
When couples dream together, they shift from just coexisting to co-creating a life they love.
Here’s how dreaming together benefits your relationship:
✨ Builds unity – You’re not just roommates. You’re teammates working toward something exciting.
❤️ Increases intimacy – Talking about your deepest desires helps you feel emotionally seen and known.
🔥 Boosts romance – Nothing says “I love you” like, “Let’s take on the world together.”
🔑 Reignites purpose – Setting goals reminds you why you chose each other and what you’re capable of as a couple.
🌱 Strengthens commitment – A shared vision gives you a roadmap to grow together instead of growing apart.
How to Start Dreaming as a Couple
You don’t need to book a weekend retreat or drop thousands on vision boards. All it takes is time, curiosity, and an open heart.
Here are 6 ways to start dreaming together:
1. Be the Dream Team
Set aside a no-phones, no-distractions night and ask each other:
“What’s something you’ve always wanted to do or experience in life?”
Listen with enthusiasm and curiosity—no judgment.
2. Align with Shared Values
Your dreams don’t have to be identical, but your values should complement each other. Whether it’s travel, family, career, creativity, or impact—talk about what truly matters to both of you.
3. Support Each Other’s Dreams
Maybe your dream is to open a small business. Maybe your partner dreams of hiking Machu Picchu. Big or small, practical or wild—cheer each other on. Mutual support is everything.
4. Get to the Why
Ask: “Why does this dream matter to you?” Understanding the heart behind each goal creates even deeper connection.
5. Write Them Down
List your top dreams on a whiteboard, in your Notes app, or on sticky notes on the fridge. Seeing them every day keeps them top of mind.
6. Take Action—Together
Even the tiniest step makes a dream more real. Want to travel more? Start a savings jar. Want to write a book? Schedule 30 minutes a week to brainstorm. Progress feels really good.
Dream Together Starter Questions
If you need help getting the conversation started, try asking:
What are some of your biggest dreams—and where did they come from?
Where do you want to be in 2, 5, and 10 years?
What’s on your bucket list right now?
Where do you want to travel?
What would you love to accomplish together as a couple?
What’s something crazy or bold you’d love to try someday?
What legacy do you want to leave behind?
You don’t have to have it all figured out. The magic is in the dreaming—and in supporting each other along the way.
Final Thoughts: Dreaming Isn’t Just Cute. It’s Powerful.
When you and your partner make space to dream, you’re choosing connection over autopilot. You’re saying, “I still believe in us. I believe in what we can become.”
So whether you’re dreaming of traveling the world, starting a family, running a marathon, or making your home feel more peaceful—dream it together.
Because love is more than just being in the same place. It’s heading in the same direction.