Words of Affirmation: Speak Your Partner’s Love Language (Without Sounding Cheesy)
Here’s the truth: love doesn’t maintain itself. It’s not a houseplant that just magically thrives on vibes alone (we wish). It takes intention—on the daily.
One of the best ways to keep love alive? Speaking your partner’s love language, especially if theirs happens to be words of affirmation. That means love, for them, sounds like encouragement, appreciation, and kind reminders that they matter to you.
And trust us, when someone’s love tank runs on words, your compliments, texts, and notes aren't just sweet—they’re everything.
So, What Exactly Is Words of Affirmation?
If your partner lights up when they get a compliment, swoons over a thoughtful note, or feels crushed when criticized, there's a good chance words of affirmation is one of their top love languages.
Think of it this way:
Do they keep that sticky note you left them weeks ago?
Do they replay compliments in their head?
Are they sensitive to your tone or silence?
If yes, then words aren’t just communication to them—they’re connection.
How to Speak Words of Affirmation Like a Pro
There are tons of ways to make someone feel loved through words, and it’s not all “You’re hot” (though… don’t skip that one either). Try mixing it up with these different styles:
💬 Compliments
Everyone likes hearing they look good or did something great.
“You crushed that presentation today.”
“That color looks amazing on you.”
“You’re literally glowing right now.”
💬 Encouraging Words
Cheer them on like their personal hype squad.
“I believe in you.”
“You’ve got this—go kill it today.”
“It’s okay to feel nervous. You’re still brave.”
💬 Appreciation + Gratitude
Gratitude goes a long way, especially when it’s specific.
“Thanks for making dinner. It meant a lot after my long day.”
“I really admire how hard you’re working right now.”
“Thank you for always having my back.”
💬 Written Notes + Digital Love
Text, DM, Post-it note—pick your weapon.
Leave a surprise note in their bag
Text a song lyric that reminds you of them
Drop a random “I’m proud of you” message midday
💬 Empathy and Acknowledgment
Validate their feelings instead of fixing them.
“I can see how much that meant to you.”
“Thanks for opening up—I know that wasn’t easy.”
“You don’t have to go through this alone. I’m here.”
Want Bonus Points? Try These Out:
Start a shared Google Doc or Notes app where you leave little messages for each other
Brag about your partner when they’re not around (bonus if it gets back to them)
Write a list of 10 things you love about them and gift it, just because
Send them a Spotify song that screams “you”
What Not to Do (If Words Matter to Them)
If words are their love language, silence or criticism cuts deep. Here's what to avoid:
🚫 Don’t be dismissive or sarcastic
🚫 Avoid harsh, critical tones when correcting or giving feedback
🚫 Don’t assume they just know how much you love and admire them
🚫 Don’t ignore their efforts—say thank you, every time
Verbal love isn’t about perfection—it’s about consistency. A few kind, genuine words can totally shift the vibe in your relationship.
A Quick Reality Check
Just so we’re clear: this isn’t about manipulating your partner into doing more for you.
It’s about you learning how to love them better—in a language that hits home.
Because when someone feels seen, appreciated, and valued, they show up with more love, too.
So try it. Pick one tip from this list and use it today. Send that “I’m proud of you” text. Leave the sticky note. Say the thing that’s been sitting in your head, waiting to be spoken out loud.
Words matter. Use them well.